The worst sin - perhaps the only sin - passion can commit, is to be joyless. -
Dorothy L. Sayers (1893 - 1957), Gaudy Night

Today i wondered about Passion. What is Passion? Is passion a key component in sustaining a relationship? When 2 people fall in love, does passion play a part in keeping the relationship alive? When passion is apparent, does it mean that you will desire the person more? Will passion make you long for that person's presence, attention and physical contact constantly? Can love survive on love alone, or does it need passion to work with it hand in hand in creating a long lasting & emotionally satisfying relationship?

I consider it a blessing for 2 people in love to come together and celebrate being a couple. However, in every relationship, there are bound to be ups and downs. Different people have different dating styles and varying expectations of what they want. Many people long for perfection, in which the kind of perfection may deviate from person to person. However, more often than not, many people find that that kinda perfection they deem as perfection, may fall short of them. Thus, they would rather settle for less. Then again, i firmly believe that although perfection is hard to achieve, it does not mean that one should not chase or lust for the perfection that is as close as perfection as possible. (i know my expression sound really chunky in typed-out english, but i'm sure it will sound better in chinese). So, back to the topic of passion. M just broke up with her boyfriend not long ago after an enduring 8year relationship. There was no 3rd party involved, neither were there quarrels nor fightings. The reason for the breakup was almost due to nothing. Being very close to M, I quickly realised that she was just bored with the relationship, which had taken a turn to a monotonous one in the recent years. She felt that she craved excitement and wanted to see what was out there for her. Nonetheless, M's bf was shattered and tried numerous ways to patch up the broken relationship with M. However, M refused to give her bf a chance, although i encouraged M to. But, who could blame her? In a relationship, only the two people involved would know the state of the relationship and what had been happening so far. Outsiders could only do so much as to comment and give their 2 cents worth. Afterall, at the end of the day, M is the only one that could dictate her happiness. If saying, outsider 1 & 2 felt that M should give her bf a chance, and M decided to heed their advice. At the end of the day, if the relationship comes back to square 1, outsider 1 & 2 also can't do anything to make M happy. If M decides to do what her heart wants and break up despite outsider's advice, at least at the end of the day, if there were regrets, she would not feel that outsider 1 & 2 were to be partly blamed. That pretty much completes my point. So, in this case, i can only pinpoint it to passion. Why is this so? It is because in M's relationship, the fire is gone and the passion that was once shared between them had fizzled. That is why they had to go on separate ways.

This makes me wonder about my own relationship, if i ever had one in future. Will my passion carry me on til marriage and years after? How can i be sure that i can be forever passionate about my relationship? Do i crave for excitement, security or love? Can a relationship survive on love alone or does it need bread & water? I'm right now trying to devise a way for me to obtain an ultimate enduring and purposeful relationship, but then again, the path of true love never did run smooth, doesn't it? So, how does one sustain a good relationship? I wished someone could tell me...perhaps, the path to a perfect relationship was never there in the 1st place.